Proper Way To Quit Job
It’s part of the
human condition—everyone daydreams about quitting his or her
job. Unless you’re working for yourself (or, in working for
yourself, happen to have multiple personality disorder), you’ve
probably thought about it, too. Hell, I work for my father, but even
I am subject to a good ol’ “in your face, DAD!”
daydream (Just kidding! Love you!).
While no one may claim immunity to this
high-power fantasy, we can and should keep the ‘fantasy’
part of it in perspective—especially with the paucity of jobs
available as of late. But if you must quit your job, there is a right
way to do it. And while many people have a healthy understanding of
how to leave a job, it seems there is a growing under-30 sect that
does not.
Take Joey DeFrancesco, a 23-year-old
who quit his job at the Providence Hotel in August. He didn’t
just take a meeting with the manager—he sneaked in an entire
brass band to play a Serbian folk song as he turned in his resignation
letter. Don’t believe me? He filmed it, and you can watch it
here
(you’ll pardon his language).
And everyone in the aviation business
should remember JetBlue flight attendant Steven Slater, who grabbed
a beer from the jet’s galley before exiting down an emergency
chute last summer.
Of course, there’s something to
be said for a grand exit. Maybe the underdog in all of us silently
cheers on these people, but only with a mixture of revulsion—at
least, if you’re over 30. According to Anne Kreamer, author
of It’s Always Personal: Emotion in the New Workplace,
“People today have grown up in a 24/7 completely transparent,
socially connected life. They all are very comfortable with sharing
and revealing things that an older generation may have thought was
too private or provocative.”
We can’t just blame it on age,
however. The problem of unemployment has also become the problem of
the overworked. The work is still there—there are just fewer
people doing it.
“Many people are doing twice the
work with half the resources,” says Kreamer. “They feel
overwhelmed and undervalued.”
According to a CareerBuilder survey
cited in USA Today, 4 out of 10 employees say their work
stress level has increased in the last six months, and 2 in 10 feel
burned out. USAToday also cited Workplace Options, an employee support
services provider, which said that more than half of workers say their
responsibilities have increased since the start of the 2007 recession,
with 70 percent going without a pay increase despite the added work.
So it’s easy to understand why
people want to quit; what’s more difficult to stomach is how
they’re going about doing it.
Joe Sale, former employee of LivingSocial,
a daily deal coupon company, sent back his business cards, marketing
materials and promotional items to LivingSocial headquarters in a
white trash bag with a note attached: “Treat your sales force
like trash and see how bad your company starts to ‘stink.’”
Do you have that feeling of revulsion
in the pit of your stomach? I do. You may feel for the guy, but it’s
hard to reconcile how he, as an adult, handled the situation.
There’s quitting, and there’s
smart quitting. If you have to quit, be the smart quitter.
As a 30-year-old who happens to straddle
the line between adult and young adult, I understand the urge to vomit
your dissatisfaction on Facebook or Twitter so that everyone can know
how terrible your work experience was. I really do.
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Just a month and a half
ago, I was working part time in the oldest yarn store in New York
City, writing creative content, photographing knitwear, making videos
on how to knit (want to learn? You can watch me here,
writing patterns, researching up-and-coming trends in the fiber community
and helping people with their projects. Knitting is a recent, part
time hobby of mine—a love affair with creating things by hand,
and I admit that while working at this store, I took various abuses.
I consistently worked over time, gave up my creative content without
being paid, and worked under someone who, without a doubt, has a severe
personality disorder. I, along with one of my coworkers, left the
organization just a little over a month ago, and I was filled with
such rage, or more pointedly, such hurt, at being taken advantage
of for so long, I wanted to write an epic poem, four miles long, to
sing from the hilltops how awful this person was. Because beyond being
angry, I was terribly upset at losing my place in the knitting community,
a community I had lovingly cherished and served without compensation
and without a need for compensation—that’s how much I
enjoyed it.
So I get it. Completely. We all want
an audience for our triumphs and our woes, and for those of us under
the age of 30, we’re used to being paid attention. We wake up
everyday and inform Twitter that we’ve just had the best cup
of coffee at Starbucks on 81st and Broadway, and we tell Facebook
about how tragically slow the subway is running, and everyone we know
chimes in, responds, gives us the thumbs-up approval we so longingly
want, and we feel better about our lives.
Just recently, the Huffington Post
reported that Bill Lawrence, upon finding out that his show, “Cougar
Town,” was getting a reduction in episodes, took his case of
the bitch-and-moans to Twitter, stating, "Will vent later.
Must go edit episode that will be on in… sometime. Enjoy Celebrity
Wife Swap on ABC. Your kids should watch," launching a direct
attack on the network’s reality programming. It may not sound
like he went overboard, but it gets worse: "All fans - thanks.
Truly. My timeline is destroyed. Maybe I'll slide some episodes out
early and we can see what you all think... uh-oh."
And the next tweet? "That last tweet will get me a nice call
from a Disney attorney." Huffington Post reports:
“after retweeting some harsh notes from fans, he hit out
at one of ABC's other shows that did make the schedule.”
Now, does that sound like the actions
of an adult man, or a fitful teenager?
The problem is, the proverbial finger
you want to give your boss via Facebook and Twitter? It lasts forever.
Outrage is no longer just a flash in the pan – you’re
leaving a permanent virtual paper trail for prospective employers
to follow like so many breadcrumbs back to your personal tragedy.
And you really don’t want them looking at that. You’re
also painting a picture of yourself as someone who can’t handle
rejection, unhappiness or anger in an adult manner, and again—that
picture lasts forever. You’ll get older and older and your Dorian
Gray-picture of immature ugliness will just get dourer and dourer
in the Internet attic. It’s not just about leaving yourself
references—it’s about making sure that the future job
you want isn’t tainted by your past immature actions. No employer
is going to want to hire someone who has the tendency to hire a brass
band to announce when they are quitting; that’s not good exposure
at all. Just look at Charlie Sheen—he’s certainly not
“winning” anymore.
So if you need to quit, do what I did.
Write a nice, conservative letter citing why you can no longer work
under current conditions, thank your boss for the opportunity, and
move on with your life. Then, when you get home, you can write the
letter you really wanted to write, sign it in blood, and burn it in
a metal basket along with that handknit effigy of your boss. If you
need me to make one for you, just let me know . . .
Flossie Arend
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